Wedding Planning Pain-Points
Are you sick of people trying to hijack your wedding? Maybe sweating in your sleep thinking about your wedding day? Here are some of the most common pain-points when it comes to planning a wedding, and how to deal with them:
1. People trying to take control of your wedding vision and details (parents, needy guests, pushy friends, etc.)
2. Kids (to bring them or not to bring them?)
3. Family & Friend Drama (and exes that might show up?)
4. Guests not responding to RSVP’s
5. Acting like a Bridezilla (and your mate thinking you’re insane)
Now, how to deal with them:
1. People trying to take control: Be assertive and remind them that this is YOUR day. Don’t worry about hurting feelings here; sure, someone might get offended but they will get over it eventually. What’s worse? Telling someone what they want to hear and being disappointed on your wedding day, or being honest with them and having the wedding of your dreams?
2. Oh, the kids question! This is personally up to you and your preference. I personally, would NOT want kids at my wedding, or if I did then I would provide a Nanny or two to watch the kids in a separate area. Kids are cute, but distracting and very often demanding and needy. As the Bride, I would not want to listen to a screaming baby while I’m walking down the aisle. However, even if you tell guests to not bring their kids, there is usually at least one person who will not follow your request (and yes this is irritating). OR, maybe having kids at your wedding is important to you. Either way I would have a back up plan. Hire a sitter or have a designated guest at the wedding to babysit incase things do not go according to plan.
3. Family & Friend Drama: This is a HUGE one. I will go ahead and tell you now, that no wedding is perfect and there will always be at least 1 thing that goes wrong (no matter how big or how small). I do not want this to scare you though, because if you have a team and a reliable planner, you will not have to stress on your big day. One way to deal with family or friend drama is to first, make sure they are sitting as far away from each other as possible. This comes to play when you are making a seating chart. You should also have a friend or family member that you trust who knows the delicacy of the situation who can keep an eye out in case things get too spicy. This is also important if you have an ex showing up to your wedding (maybe their family is friends with yours and your mom made you invite them?). Regardless, keep calm and delegate til’ you die. And if it makes you feel more at ease, have a conversation with the troubled person before they attend your wedding and address your concerns in a very nice manner. Remind them kindly that this is your day and that if they ruin it for you, you will never forgive them (lol).
4. Guests not responding to RSVPs: With your wedding day approaching you’ll need to get a more accurate guest count for the venue, food, etc. If the guest is not responding, reach out to them a few times. If your parents or friends are close with that guest, see if they can get an answer for you. If you have reached out 3 times and have no answer, do not panic. You will already have a general idea of approximately how many people will be there anyway. You will almost never have an exact number, so don’t worry. Count up the amount of unanswered RSVP’s you have, and maybe plan for half of them to show up. I would rather be safe than sorry and have too much food versus not enough.
5. Acting like a Bridezilla: Yes, it is definitely bound to happen. When you are closer and closer to getting married, the panic kicks in. Getting married is a beautiful thing, but it is also a time of heightened emotion. Stop, and remember why you are getting married in the first place. It’s because you love your person, and want to be with them forever right? So make that the priority. Without them, you wouldn’t be having a wedding in the first place. Go on dates, do fun things. Remember to LIVE your life, and enjoy the time with your soon-to-be-spouse. Everything else is just details. This is also why I would HIGHLY recommend hiring a planner. Instead of stressing your mind out, they can take the load off you. Relax in your free time, instead of overwhelming yourself with all the things that need to be done. A planner will do them for you. I have had multiple brides come to me because they started planning their wedding and then starting losing their minds. Take a walk, smell the roses, watch Netflix, get a massage. #treatyoself and you will thank yourself in the end!